• Cassie Sheffey

Resolution Re-Do's

By this time, a lot of us have fell off the wagon. We stopped going to the gym. We ate good for a couple weeks and are now back into our previous lifestyle that got us into this predicament in the first place. How do we get back in the road? How do we make a change that is lasting? In my line of work, I have the awesome ability to see the outcomes of lifestyle changes for the good and the bad. I won't mention names but you know who you are, came to see me this week with whom I had diagnosed with hypothyroidism a few months back. We had started medication, but we had also discussed lifestyle changes and exercise. She has LOST a ton of weight, feels better, and looks amazing. I was so so proud of her! In her future, I see us decreasing medication with every improvement in her lifestyle that she makes.

How did she do it? Making a lifestyle change is hard and some of you reading this has already stopped the resolution you made the first of the year. You may be thinking in your head, I haven't seen changes yet. It isn't worth the frustration. I would rather just take a pill (most common response). How did she do it then? Well her WANT to was bigger than her WON'T. Her goal was bigger than those road blocks. Today I want to address those road blocks. Some of those road blocks may be budget, your mind, habits, addictions, FAMILY, FRIENDS, WORK, even co-workers. You notice that there is a lot of road blocks that are people.

I once had somebody (co-worker) tell me they couldn't sit beside of me because "I can't watch you eat that mess." That "mess" was a bowl full of veggies that I had stir fried in coconut aminos with ground pork sausage. It was absolutely delicious and excellent fuel for my body. It probably wasn't the prettiest plated dish, but it did the trick. My feelings were hurt and I did second guess my choice of lunch as I watched her eat fast food, fries, and drink a big cup of pop (soda if you are from above the Mason Dixon Line). Looking back, her comment was not meant for me. She was just mirroring her own insecurities and knowledge of her poor food choices. I should not have been so easily offended and in hindsight, I should have offered her some to try. 1 Corinthians 10:13 - There hath no temptation taken hold of you but such as is common to man. But God is faithful; He will not suffer you to be tempted beyond that which ye are able to bear, but with the temptation will also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. God never promised us it would be easy, but he did promise he would be there with us always. Making positive lifestyle changes aren't easy but they are definitely worth it.

When did self care become selfish and so taboo... when did taking care of yourself move from 2nd nature to being have to be prioritized around life? I hate that our lives have become so unimportant in regards to everyday tasks that we honestly have to set a goal that means more than just taking care of ourselves to stick to a resolution on getting healthy. I do not think that God intended us to "let ourselves go" so that we could chase money, work, social judgement, and bad decisions. I have found myself reviewing those on social media, only seeing what they post and wanting to only have that to post in reference to my life. What we do not see from social media is the struggles that they are going through to accomplish those goals, making it seem easy for them to accomplish. What we do not see is 12 hours of working, to come home to 2 kids and a husband, who need their wife and mom to be their wife and mom despite being tired. What we don't see is that even though that woman is exhausted, she still has to prepare food for said people for the next day so that they have a healthy choice for food and make their life easier even though she cannot be their to do her wife and motherly duties the next day because, once again, a 12 hour shift looms.

It is easy setting those goals with good intentions, but following through is the hard part. Life gets in the way as noted above, prioritizing things that we think matter, but really do not. Of course this was only one person's opinion but definitely prompts my own self reflection. Life is it's own road block and likely the biggest. Prioritizing yourself does seem taboo when it is the social norm to take a backseat to social media's regard for what task are more important. I am also guilty for wanting social judgment of me to be positive, when in fact my own judgement of myself is not. Resetting your resolution for the year is resetting your mindset. I had said in a previous blog post that I had to learn to love myself fat before I could love myself skinny. That is still a work in progress in my own life. So for those of you who need to re-set your resolution, consider re-prioritizing those things in your life, putting yourself somewhere near the top of the list instead of the bottom. You may be able to accomplish that goal if you know that you are worth it. Until next time...


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